Love your friends

02142013_Love your friendsLast week, I received a surprise package in the mail from a very dear friend, whom I have known since kindergarten. Inside was a Canadian Living magazine, which I subscribed to when I lived in Canada. It was such a treat to receive! But what struck me more was the card she had sent along with it (pictured here). In it, she had hand-written a note explaining that something about the front of the card reminded her of me. That perhaps it hinted to a time years ago while we were in high school and bartended together for catering functions at a nearby hotel. She also thought that since I’m a foodie, that perhaps I would appreciate some new recipe ideas in the magazine, in addition to other things Canadian.

As I sat on the stairs reading her words, I was overwhelmed with emotion. Having a friend reach out unexpectedly to you, just to say they are thinking of you, is an incredible feeling. Especially when I was having a down day and feeling homesick. Seeing a familiar magazine and reading kind words from someone I have known for 37 years brought a connection to my past that I desperately needed that day.

Living abroad has taught me a lot about friendships. As you get older and have established a circle of friends, you may not be motivated to make new friends. But if you find yourself living in a different country, you are suddenly quite motivated! You also realize how special the friends you have back home are when you don’t get to see them as often as you wish.

Even though I have met and spend time with a number of ladies here, there are only a few that I would consider friends. I am so grateful to still have a number of friends back in Canada, who have not allowed distance to interfere with our friendship. This experience has made me realize that not only is it difficult to find others with whom you are compatible with, that making friends can take time, and nurturing your friendships is very important. I also learned that we should be open to making new friends, as friends from different journeys can enrich your life.

My dear friend who sent the card and magazine, also shared this article with me called “Top five regrets of the dying” as recorded by Bronnie Ware, a palliative nurse (click the link if you would also like to read it).

Regret #4 was:

I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

Thank you for the inspiration my dear friend, for staying in touch, and for reminding us all how important friendships are.

Today is February 14th. Remember to love your friends.

8 thoughts on “Love your friends

  1. Hi Heather,

    Well written. Friendship is truly a blessing and I feel blessed our friendship continues to grow. Can’t wait to see you in June. Take care.



    • Thanks, Susanne! Sorry to hear you are in a rut :(. I find winter months can be challenging, especially near the end. But on the bright side, it means that Spring will be here soon! Take care of yourself.


  2. New friends are fabulous, but old friends are the most precious. Thanks for being a precious friend Heather. I am already planning the pina coladas for around the pool this summer when you get here! Can I get a woot woot!!


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